Yesterday at lunch Matt and I were talking about some things that sums up what marriage is all about. It's a team effort when making decisions about our future and about now. It can be in the form of something as simple as paying bills, keeping up with the house or planning our career paths. If you don't work together it won't last.Ironically, as Matt was cleaning up his email inbox he found this email from his dad who passed away in February of 2006. This email was right around the time we found out we had the opportunity for Matt to take a promotion in Raleigh, NC. It was hard because we were living in Indianapolis but we always wanted to live in new and exciting cities. We were so grateful about the time we were able to spend with his Dad while we were there. He was always so supportive of our decisions and we cherish every note and email he ever sent to us.
(The above photo was taken in North Carolina- the last place Larry knew as our home)
Mathew,
I never really said too much about your message to me about helping you learn things about toilets, etc. I have not said anything simply because I have been completely drained by having to deal with my mom. (my note- his mom had just had a stroke and he was spending a lot of time helping with her) But, I just re-read it and I can't think of anything you could have said to make me any happier.
Now, I have a few thoughts about your promotion. I could not be more proud of you and Tiffany. I include Tiffany, because I always have viewed a marriage as a team thing. The success of one partner usually involves the sacrifice and support of the other.
The great thing about this move is it could possibly give Tiffany a boost towards finding a job that she enjoys as much as you enjoy yours! There will be challenges and uncertainty for both of you as you face this next step in your lives. But, there may also be great reward and satisfaction. Moving "away" may also be a challenge for both of you. You will have new friends to make and old friendships to keep. And you have your families.
When it comes to me, your new assignment gives me a goal to stay as healthy as possible so I can see you and Tiff return to the Midwest some time in the future. But, should something happen to me, I want you to know that you are doing what I raised you to do and want you to do! I would not have it any other way! The only bad thing about your move from my point of view is, I will really miss Mr. P.! (that's our dog Parker, he loved him)
Pops
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It really gives you perspective. As much as you want your kids to be near you forever, it takes a better person to not only accept them moving forward in life but to show them unwavering support in doing so. He was able to transition from care giver, to councilor, then to mentor. That is a difficult task that many parents are unable to achieve. He was a great man and it was an honor to learn from him for 28 years. I only hope that I am able to transfer even a fraction of my learning’s from him on to our children one day.
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